A recap of things that deserve, and will hopefully get, their own posts

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Saturday December 6th 2025 C.E

16:18 GMT+11

So quite obviously my attempt to break the writers block failed, and since then a bunch more stuff has happened, all of which deserved its own post, but for the sake of expediency and actually feeling like I can get back to writing here regularly again I am just going to run a big ol catch up and cover a bunch of things broadly and maybe later I will feel like I can write posts for them individually and dig a bit more into it all in a way that each of the big things in my life truly deserve.

So back around the start of October my relationship with my queer platonic partner, Nix, began to change in some unexpected ways. After some conversations with each other and our respective spouses and partners we decided to see where things might lead us. The long and short is that we have dropped the platonic descriptor from our relationship and I now have a boyfriend.

Two months later things are still very new for us and we are still learning what it means for us and exploring the way in which things are and are not different now, how we relate and interact with each other in different circumstances and where things are taking us.

There is so much more I want to write, some of which I should not, some I definitely will and some entirely irrelevant to anyone but those closest to us but for now that is as much as I feel a need to share.

No I know that there are folks who I am certain will have their own thoughts and feelings and ideas and such on this topic, many of who have been uninvited from my life. before you rush to share those please let me offer just one little secret first….

So moving on, chronologically speaking, the end of October saw my wife Rose and I pass our 20 year anniversary. We had hoped that things would work out in such a way that we would be able otgo and spend the day together at the Temple of the Winds in the botanic gardens, the place we got married at.

Unfortunately Rose is still stuck in Thailand as await certain processing that needs to be done to let any of our other family members head over there for a while. The time apart is hard, and indeed this is the longest Rose and I have been apart since we began dating, much less since we got married. We are hopeful that something can work out that we can be together again before Christmas. The time zone difference and the workload we both have mean that we don’t get as much time as we would like, and of course it is extra hard on young Robert with mum away so long.

In a small twist of irony Rose and I went to Thailand for our honeymoon, so it is possible we might be able to swing something more along the lines of what we had wanted to do at our 21st anniversary, which will also mark our 3rd vow renewal as we have chosen to renew our vows every 7 years.

Again the anniversary and the geographical separation that is beyond our control each deserve their own posts, and hopefully I will be able to give them those in the future but for now it is enough for me to simply have spoken about them so they are no longer “pending” in my thoughts and heart.

Something that will make things a little easier for us in bridging our geographical distance is that Robert is at last an Australian citizen, despite being born to Australian parents the complications of COVID and being in the US meant that getting his citizenship confirmed has been….a process. One that was finally completed yesterday. This too deserves its own post both in celebration and also because I would love to share the process it has been and why it has been such a challenge, mostly because I personally find it interesting.

The next step of course is to get his Australian passport underway which I am hoping to do at the same time that I renew mine, which I will begin on Monday.

Monday I have to update a lot of things and do a great deal of paperwork, the reason being the other thing that really does deserve its own post. In the eyes of the Australian government I am now officially Robert James Noonan O’Wayreth, born as Fae.

There are, I am sure, folks who do not understand the depth of meaning this has for me, and that is fine. There are others who can take a good guess, that is also fine.

This is, for me, an important milestone in my pilgrimage into the West.

However it is that I ultimately arrive home it will be as me, as the me I have become and grown in to.

I am, and always will be, proud to be a Noonan. My family traits are obvious to anyone who has met more than one of us for any extended period of time; but I have … well I was going to say joined, then I was going to say found but honestly I think the phrase Nix used recently is the best, forged, I have forged a family beyond the ties of my blood.

That is what House Wayreth is forged family; forged in the fires of pain and adversity, tempered by loss and suffering and ultimately, always, chosen.

When it has come to the point where the rubber meets the road, where the meat meets the grinder, the chips are down or whatever metaphor you care to use; we choose each other every time and together we are more, together we find solace, kinship and hope.

There is so much more to say about this, about what it means to me to be O’Wayreth, what it means to me to openly identify myself as fae; and that will be another post.

For now I will leave this here

-Robert James-Noonan O’Wayreth